I finally told them........... caution could trigger
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Tracey
Joined: 30 Dec 2005
Posts: 1489
Location: Ayr, Scotland
I finally told them........... caution could trigger
after 32 years i have finally told my parents of the abuse i had in the childrens unit
i've never told them as they quite often never believe what i say
i guess i am the black sheep of the family!
been back in therapy for a couple of months now and have been talking to my t about telling them
so i decided now is the time to tell
i travelled down to their house thursday morning and told them just after arriving
my dad said nothing but my mum was "that's no surpricse & what do you want us to do about it?"
all i wanted was for them to believe me!
the following morning she gave me a pile of letters i had wrote whilst in the unit
there was nothing we could see inidicating any abuse
going to show them to my t on wednesday
we got home late last night as we called in on an old friend of mine
i can't believe i managed to tell them what happened!
i'm quite shocked about the way mum took it
but it was better than i expected
it's not a baby step for me! it's more of a leap!
Karen say's she's proud of me for telling!
i was so grateful to have her at my side when i did
i think if she wasn't there it could of had a totally different outcome
Tracey _________________ I know I'm in my own little world, but it's ok. They know me here.
sometimes i wonder... ' why is that frisbee getting bigger'... and then it hits me
Sat May 12, 2012 4:33 pm
melons Site Admin
Joined: 06 Feb 2004
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((((((((((((Tracey)))))))))))
So sorry to hear about this and I think you've been really brave, it can only help you to get it out. Thinking of you
Luv'n'hugs,
Mel x
Sun May 13, 2012 12:04 am
MysteryGirl Moderators
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Dear Tracey, I know what an enormous step this was for you and I give you an anormous hug for your bravery. ((((((((((((((((((((((Trace)))))))))))))))))))))
How people take what we have to say is not in our control, the important thing is that we say it. I realised that last year when I came out to my family... some of them took it well, some not so well, but the important thing was I had brought it out into the open and out of the darkness, just as you have done.
Bless you girl.
HugZ, MG _________________ Be yourself.............everybody else is taken!
Sun May 13, 2012 12:31 am
Tracey
Joined: 30 Dec 2005
Posts: 1489
Location: Ayr, Scotland
(((((((Mel))))))) (((((((((Noni)))))))))))
thankyou for your kind words
had the shakes since i got home
but at least i'm sleeping now (had nearly a month with very little sleep)
just trying to be kind to myself now
*hugs*
Tracey _________________ I know I'm in my own little world, but it's ok. They know me here.
sometimes i wonder... ' why is that frisbee getting bigger'... and then it hits me
Sun May 13, 2012 8:20 am
Cavewoman
Joined: 06 Sep 2005
Posts: 2056
Location: nearby
start by now forgiving yourself ....
for everything ... including taking so long to make your giant spectacular gorgeous leap into the reality of today
~hugs~
congratulations dear lady _________________ " The sorcerers in life are created within each of us" --- Lynn V. Andrews
Sun May 13, 2012 11:53 pm
Tracey
Joined: 30 Dec 2005
Posts: 1489
Location: Ayr, Scotland
Thankyou ((((cavey))))
i though telling would be the hardest part, but mixed emotions that follow are harder
the feeling of guilt is pretty strong just now as my mum is not well
trying to tell myself that she would still be unwell even if i hadn't said anything! _________________ I know I'm in my own little world, but it's ok. They know me here.
sometimes i wonder... ' why is that frisbee getting bigger'... and then it hits me
Wed May 16, 2012 6:50 am
PipSqueak
Joined: 04 Jul 2008
Posts: 987
Location: S.W. England
((((((((((((((Tracey))))))))))))))))))))))))
Well done. So brave.
Yes you are 100% right, she would have been ill anyway. Please don't take that on your shoulders _________________ .............................................................
Previously PurpleUK
Sat May 26, 2012 9:34 pm
Tracey
Joined: 30 Dec 2005
Posts: 1489
Location: Ayr, Scotland
(((((((((Pip))))))))))))
thanks pip! your right she would of been ill anyway!
she has a stone stuck in her bile duct
my t was really impressed with me and now we are applying for my medical records for the time i was in the childrens unit
my good lady Karen took me away for a couple of nights up to inverness
so i got to catch up with my old landlady from when i was there last year working
*hugs*
Tracey _________________ I know I'm in my own little world, but it's ok. They know me here.
sometimes i wonder... ' why is that frisbee getting bigger'... and then it hits me
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