Joined: 25 Apr 2008
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Location: Two steps ahead of where I was two steps ago.
table for awkward, party of three
I have been seeing this girl for over a month now. She completely identifies herself as gay and loving other women. This next part baffles me. She is currently living with what she calls "her boyfriend". She says he is a total anomaly, and that they have a strange connection, even though she isn't attracted to men. It isn't that I don't understand bisexuality. I just feel like someone in this triangle is getting cheated. Also, the guy knows about our relationship.
Am I being dragged along a path towards a cliff of disappointment? If any of you have wisdom or insight, I'd appreciate it. My conscience is screaming at me to get out of this, but I think an external voice would really solidify that conclusion.
All three of us are going out tomorrow for a ball game. I'd really like to talk to her about this then. I don't want to hurt her, but it seems like this ride won't stop until someone or everyone is. _________________ "If elected president, what are your plans to solve baby llama mama drama, Obama?"
Wed Jul 16, 2008 4:55 am
NIC
Joined: 15 Aug 2005
Posts: 141
Location: Brooklyn NY
The Tri-pods are never good hun.
There is an exception to the rule tho.
If he is aware of ur relationship, and they are just roomies, then if you can handle it.......WHY NOT.
The flip side is this:
Take a deep look inside urself, cause only you can make such a decision.
If you can or can't handle the situation.
I'm not sure anything she says (if you speak about it) will help ur decision.
It's more so about:
What can YOU handle
Are YOU ready for this
Do YOU know all sides of consequences
Are YOU ok with it.
xx
Rose _________________
"For those who understand you,No explanation is necessary, for those who don't,none is possible."
Wed Jul 16, 2008 8:22 pm
fortheloveofagood... Site Admin
Joined: 17 Dec 2005
Posts: 2216
Location: loves land of plenty
Yeah, i think NIC's advice is spot on...
Also i have been known to be a quite a practical woman in terms of 'love' - i can quite happily go along with something, if it's just for the experience, not a forever committment... so for me that comes into... are you likely to fall in love, want commitment and then have other expectations from this woman? ones she can't meet...
also i have found that when i don't listen to my inner voice, i learn a lesson... so i either, listen to that guide and get on with something or someone else, or i make a little detour and learn something. In either case, it's ok, i continue on...
So don't beat yourself up about this, but do ensure you have some friends near to listen and be there for you...
we're here too of course.
Kx
Wed Jul 16, 2008 9:51 pm
zingray
Joined: 25 Apr 2008
Posts: 10
Location: Two steps ahead of where I was two steps ago.
NIC, fortheloveofagood...
Thanks for the support. I realize this is a decision I can't put off on to someone else, and that I have some soul searching to do. Your words are a great help though, and I much appreciate them.
Due to other circumstances (We are both moving to different states soon) I am not expecting a longterm relationship with this woman. Is there any irony that a lesbian relationship is ending because of a Uhaul?
My best friend, whom I've gone to advice for on this, hasn't outright told me to stop, but says that she could never become involved in something knowing that it is going nowhere. That makes a lot of sense, and what she thinks means the world to me.
... But like you said, sometimes it is good to do something for the experience. I am having fun right now, and if things play smoothly until we both move, then I think this might run its course and end amicably.
Thanks again! _________________ "If elected president, what are your plans to solve baby llama mama drama, Obama?"
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