Joined: 24 Jul 2004
Posts: 1
Location: Little Rock, Arkansas
I am in love with my friend but......
I meet this girl we'll call her "P" about 11 years ago when we had our first sexual encounter. We lost contact 9 years ago. I saw her in the store one day and by the next weekend we were hanging out alot. She explained to me that she had just broken up with her girlfriend and was still deeply in love with her, But the girlfriend always put her down and never put it out there that they were more than friends but a couple. In the mist of all the conversations about her and her x-girlfriend problems we began sleeping together again. Well it was obvisous to my family that we were fooling around and i didnt deny it, because i didnt see it as i problem. I made it clear to "P" that no matter what she did or how she looked i would love her (she has gained alot of weight since then) and she just don't understand why. i dont see her as a man(how she dresses) nor a women i see her as "P" and there isnt anything she could do that would make me love her any less and i have made this sooooo clear to her. Well 2 weeks ago she said that she wanted to have some time to her self and every time I call and tell her I miss her and I want to see her. She blows me off. I am really Heartbroken is there anything you see that i could do to change this or should I just leave her alone for good and move on?
Sat Jul 24, 2004 5:23 am
Tigger Site Admin
Joined: 06 Feb 2004
Posts: 890
Hi SweetNTender....welcome to melswebs
Sorry to hear you are having a bad time....there is not a lot you can do if "P" does not want to speak with you ...you can either ask her out right whats up or just leave her be.
Hope things work out for you.
Tigs
Sun Jul 25, 2004 9:37 pm
Ladyinnothing
Joined: 31 Aug 2004
Posts: 5
Move on. Unless you want to kidnap her.
Tue Aug 31, 2004 3:44 pm
sunshine
Joined: 26 Aug 2004
Posts: 22
I'd tell her to f***off. There's more fish in the sea than you may realize.
Wed Sep 01, 2004 2:01 pm
Uncle_Chuck
Joined: 01 Sep 2004
Posts: 1
quote:Originally posted by sunshine:
I'd tell her to fuckoff. There's more fish in the sea than you may realize.
You sound like a real sweetheart, sunshine.
Wed Sep 01, 2004 6:50 pm
Athena
Joined: 26 Aug 2004
Posts: 314
Location: Berlin
Hey there SweetNTender.
You sound like a really loving person and "P" sounds as she has a lot of issues to work though. I think you should go out and live your life and not wait for her. I feel like you will be very hurt in this situation. If she can't accept your love then you deserve to be with somebody who can. I hope this helps.
Athena _________________ "We strive for beauty and balance, the sensual over the sentimental."
Fri Sep 03, 2004 8:57 pm
o_a_beautiful_mind_o Guest
:)
Hey SweetNtender, I agree with Athena, you do sound like a lovely person. There's some great advice on here. Sunshine, you made moi giggle
I don't feel walking away and moving on is closing the case, if you know what I mean? If I were in your shoes despite being able to empathize with "p", I wouldn't be able to stop myself from feeling hurt as she hasn't noticed how I feel. In these situations, it's important to ask yourself about the problems, if they were not there, would you share an equal balance of love for each other?
So I would confess my feelings about how confused I am with the distance between us and how insecure I'm becoming with how unstable the relationship is. I'd ask what 'I need sometime to myself' is supposed to mean to me. Ask her where you stand and what her intensions are.
Worth a shot x
luv n stuff
Stace x
Fri Sep 03, 2004 10:12 pm
SmokyVelvet
Joined: 25 Aug 2004
Posts: 2
Location: Alabama
I agree with beautiful. As much as you feel for her, you can't allow yourself to feel hurt like this. Ask her what's up, and if she is still reluctant, I would move on. If it's ment to be, it will be. _________________ soft as velvet, silent as smoke...
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