Joined: 04 Aug 2004
Posts: 18
Location: United States
Alone
It has been awhile since I have been here, or posted. I am looking for some input. My gf and I have been living together now for almost a year. While there is a genuine caring, I don't feel she really loves me. Oh she tells me she does, but I just have this gut feeling. There is no one thing to base this on, but I feel alone in this relationship. Since we have been together, I think it has only been twice, she has ever told me I looked nice. Now I don't need compliments to boost my own worth, but its nice to know that in the eyes of your beloved you are beautiful, appealing, wanted. When we first started dating, we had sex almost every time we saw each other. Now seldom, and she doesn't always allow me to give her pleasure. For myself I love her and have from the beginning. _________________ live,love and laugh often!
Tue Aug 02, 2005 8:44 pm
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Joined: 27 Jan 2005
Posts: 1664
Location: Tallahassee Florida
Been there, done that, and she was not in love. You can love someone and not be in love. Sorry to tell you this, but that's how it was. We were together for 4 years, built a business together, and in the end an internet friend of mine and she got together.
best to you,
brat _________________ "A little work won't hurt you bad, but just in case I'm wrong, you'll be smiling when they pronounce you dead." Amanda Marshall 'This could take all night
Wed Aug 03, 2005 12:17 am
chame70
Joined: 18 Nov 2004
Posts: 290
Location: South Florida
I could almost echo Temps' answer
Lainy,
Your heart is usually right. I can almost echo temps' reply. I know when i love someone, I love to tell them just how much i love them, leave notes where i know she'll find them etc.
Sorry.
Hugs
chame _________________ i love the scent of a womyn, the touch of a womyn, the taste of a womyn
Wed Aug 03, 2005 1:17 am
topaz117
Joined: 12 Sep 2004
Posts: 44
Location: Southeast USA
Heck, that sounds like the relationship I had with my husband. We were like good friends/room mates who ocassionally had sex. Talk is cheap...love is an 'action' word.
The difference is really amazing when your partner has feelings that equal your own, and cares enough to show them.
Topaz
Wed Aug 03, 2005 6:19 am
lainy
Joined: 04 Aug 2004
Posts: 18
Location: United States
I think I made it worse
Sometimes you try to say something and it comes out all wrong. So I end up hurting her feelings, then feel like a idiot. I am suppose to tell her what I need, that can be difficult when you are trying to express a way you feel. It gets all turned around somehow and its about her. I end up feeling like I am this needy person. _________________ live,love and laugh often!
Wed Aug 03, 2005 6:47 am
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Joined: 27 Jan 2005
Posts: 1664
Location: Tallahassee Florida
Lainy,
Breath hun, be careful that she isn't purposefully turning the convo that way. To make sure you say what you mean, and can't be accused or wordsmithed into saying something else, write it down. You can look at the paper and talk with her, or just leave the note for her. Keep it open, non accusatory, and sharing of your feelings. Obviously something is wrong or you wouldn't be feeling this way.
I wish you the best,
brat _________________ "A little work won't hurt you bad, but just in case I'm wrong, you'll be smiling when they pronounce you dead." Amanda Marshall 'This could take all night
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