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melons
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Joined: 06 Feb 2004
Posts: 2371
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A NEW RULE
Ok ladies...you all know (well some of you at least) that I normally have a great sense of humour; however I have absolutely NO humour where my name is used in posts with examples for systems such as the 'Love Calculator' etc....as occured in a joke thread posted by Phoenix last night (which I subsequently deleted and accepted the sincere apology given).
We all know that posts are made in general chat directing people to psychology or personality tests....love tests...true companion tests...soul mate compatability tests etc. ...and these tests are meant as fun for everyone. Normally they are fun for people to pass the time ....I have done several of them myself.
They do not become fun however when someone posts results from these tests involving someone who they and everyone else knows is monogamously coupled and lists that persons supposed 'love compatibility' with several other members of the site.
I am old fashioned...I don't like the fact that it could give any reader the impression that I am a 'Jack the Lad' on the site or the impression it could give that I 'play the field'...which I most certainly do NOT! I never have and I never will. It offended my own sensibilities.
I find it disrespectful of me....disrespectful of my Lady (Mdm Prez) and disrespectful of the beautiful love we have for each other and which we share.
I am sure that others of you who are monogamously coupled would not appreciate seeing your loved ones name used in vain as a potentially compatibile 'lover' for other members of the site!
Well...I certainly do NOT like it and so I would ask all of you to RESPECT my relationship with Mdm Prez and the relationships of other couples on the site.
Thats all.
Mel
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Sun Sep 09, 2007 4:15 pm |
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rainbowbrite82
Joined: 18 Aug 2007
Posts: 66
Location: Northern Florida |
I am sorry that that happened to you, but it's a good thing you got that out in the open. It's a good rule to have.
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Sun Sep 09, 2007 4:20 pm |
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Khaleesi
Moderators
Joined: 06 May 2005
Posts: 551
Location: FL |
To all of you that didn't have the luxury of seeing the original post, it was a game that used your name to determine if you were compatible with your partner. Phoenix found it online and had been putting OUR names in it and we were laughing at the various results we got when she used our real names vs our screen names vs pet names we use for each other. IT IS A CHILD'S GAME!!!! Look at all the other tests posted here about what type of lesbian are you etc. How could anyone possibly think anyone could predict compatibility of ANY type can be based on a name? It was a effing JOKE!!! Phoenix posted Mel's name with 3 other members as being compatible. MY name was one of them. I AM PHOENIX'S GF!!!! Phoenix and I are monogamous. Why would she use MY name? Because it was a JOKE!!!! She did not use Mdm Prez's name because she does not have her last name.
Khaleesi _________________ Hike up your skirt a little more and show your world to me.....
Never start a row in public when it can be settled politely in private. ~My Father~
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Sun Sep 09, 2007 5:26 pm |
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melons
Site Admin
Joined: 06 Feb 2004
Posts: 2371
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khaleesi
I accepted the apology that was given and that this was intended as a joke which misfired.
However in order to prevent this occuring again in the future it is best for Me to let everyone know that I did find it offensive..and it is My right to do so.
I consider My relationship with Mdm Prez to the highest degree and I will not have any aspersions made as to my character (whether in jest or not) because My pride (pride in Myself...pride in Mdm Prez and pride in Our relationship) will never allow it.
Best regards
Mel
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Sun Sep 09, 2007 5:43 pm |
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DarkChyldesKiss
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Joined: 29 Mar 2005
Posts: 3381
Location: Inner Sanctum |
I stand by Mels new rule.
A joke is a joke but if you don't have someone's permission to use their name then don't do it. This could be construed as sexual harassment amongst other things.
The other jokes that have been posted were done by willing participants !
DarkChylde _________________ (©2001-2011+-...... darkchyldeskiss aka wyldemere )
(All works are copyrighted and protected.
DO NOT copy my writing without Permission!)
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bbmaniac
Joined: 05 May 2005
Posts: 248
Location: Houston, TX |
Ok...I realize I'm not a mod and have been absent for some time now. That being said, there are a few here who seriously need to grow up. I agree with what was said here that a joke is a joke unless it brings undo harm to someone. This is a place I've long held as a sanctuary, a commutity...so to speak, and I hate to see it becoming sophomoric.
Mel...while I may be quiet and stay in the background, I know how you feel about this site and I wish nothing more than it for to become exactly that. I'm sorry you were put through this (and among other things lately), and you deserve to have what you envisioned.
Great big hugs to you and Mdm,
BB _________________ For nothing this wide universe I call,
Save thou, my rose; in it thou art my all.
Sonnet 109 - Shakespeare
'I'm just your ordinary, everyday sane-psycho...supergoddess' Liz Phair
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Sun Sep 16, 2007 2:58 pm |
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Jules
Joined: 22 Feb 2005
Posts: 904
Location: Home |
Way to go Mel...As always.
Hope all is well with you and yours.
Jules
P.S. BB it's good to see you again! _________________ Never again
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bbmaniac
Joined: 05 May 2005
Posts: 248
Location: Houston, TX |
Good to see you again too, Jules!! _________________ For nothing this wide universe I call,
Save thou, my rose; in it thou art my all.
Sonnet 109 - Shakespeare
'I'm just your ordinary, everyday sane-psycho...supergoddess' Liz Phair
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