I ask this because i feel i had the choice, but most of the gay friends i talk with say they didn't. All i want to know is why i got the right to choose, and others don't. The latest issue of gay marriages, opens the door for many topics but each one i read says they didnt "CHOOSE' to be gay, i thought about my life and started questioning others. maybe mels site has answers....
Wed Feb 18, 2004 11:07 pm
Tigger Site Admin
Joined: 06 Feb 2004
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Hi Chelsbx....nice to meet you
Wondering how come you got to choose and what you mean by this...you have also got me scratching my head about the comment "maybe mels site has answers.... "
Enlighten us some more.....
Tigger
Wed Feb 18, 2004 11:09 pm
melons Site Admin
Joined: 06 Feb 2004
Posts: 2371
Hi Chel...
well I don't hold all the answers (I wish I did!) but here are a few points that may be worth considering, as a starting point for this topic of conversation.
In my opinion, there are some women who are able to choose to be gay. I think this opinion can be based on a few facts, such as....
1. Some women are equally comfortable with men or women as sexual partners.
2. Some women may have a preference for one sex but still find sexual appeal in the other.
(I consider that these women would then have a 'choice.' )
3. Some women know they are lesbian from the outset and find no sexual appeal in men.
(I consider that these women have 'no choice.')
4. Consider also the effect of others around us, our blood family and our friends. For some women, to 'come out' may be daunting, and they may choose to 'conform' to what society expects in general (i.e. being straight).
(I consider that these women 'believe' they have no choice, when in fact they do have a choice.)
Anyway...did that make sense? ...feel free to disagree....*smilin' atcha*
All the best now,
Mel
Mel of Melswebs
Wed Feb 18, 2004 11:12 pm
melons Site Admin
Joined: 06 Feb 2004
Posts: 2371
............by the way................
I have a lot of opinions about everything....
maybe you could call me 'opinionated'
Is'nt that right Tigger?
Wed Feb 18, 2004 11:15 pm
chelsbx
Joined: 18 Feb 2004
Posts: 2
First , by saying "find answer here" i meant there are all women of differant beliefs, all able to tell thier side and give me thier oppinion.
Second , yes mel you were clear and i did understand so thank you .
thanks tigger
Wed Feb 18, 2004 11:20 pm
Tigger Site Admin
Joined: 06 Feb 2004
Posts: 890
Hi
Well Mel...think you sure had your say
Chels.... nice to see you have an interest in other peoples opinions...I will keep dropping by to see how your pole is going.
Have a good Christmas everyone!!!!
Tigger
Wed Feb 18, 2004 11:23 pm
Kahuna
Joined: 25 Mar 2004
Posts: 8
I dont I have a choice...
... but then again im so confused.
Thu Mar 25, 2004 10:23 am
Clio
Joined: 13 Apr 2004
Posts: 5
Trying to understand myself
Hi everyone,
I'm a newbie here, and I have something to share since the question was asked. I will be 19 on June 20, so I have not had much of a sex life.
I feel I was born bisexual, and I had no choice. Since I was very little I have felt attraction for both sexes. But I do have a choice in how sexualy active I want to be. The little experience I did have with both sexes was wonderful, and I don't want to be any other way ever.
I just have this concern, that is that I feel sometimes that people both straight and gay might hate us more because we like both sexes. This is probably ignorance on my part because I have little gay friends and never been involved in any gay group (this is the first time for me in a gay forum). So any word of advice will be welcomed.
Thank you,
Clio
Tue Apr 13, 2004 5:44 pm
peewee
Joined: 22 Mar 2004
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Location: Yakima WA
well..
hi Chel,
damn! i clicked new topic, instead of reply.
i did "reply" it called Well... if u all wanna read my imput on your question
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i thought about my life and started questioning others. 
maybe mels site has answers....
