ok let's try
i've been going out with a friend of mine for two months now
but no one knows...and no one knows that we're "lesbians"
we're still playing the straigt girls in front of our friends
even when we're together, we're acting like we're just friend
but the problem is that my gf really don't want people to know
but i'm not sure it's what I want anymore
at the start I was ok with playing this "game"
'cause we didn't know if this was gonna last
but with time I realize that it might be love, not just sex or trying girl/girl realationship
the problem is that she's living with one of my good friend (that's how we met)
and everytime she spend a night at my appartment
she have to tell a lie and everytime i spend a night at her appartment we need to find a good excuse (like oh I forgot my key, oh it's late I don't wanna wake anyone home)
In my opinion, telling at least this friend would be so much easier for us
no more lie for spending a night together
but she really don't want to
NO ONE MUST KNOW she tells
please help me out here
is it because she's not in love
is it because she's affraid
....
what can I do ???
Wed Nov 02, 2005 4:29 pm
Jules
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Talk to her....ask her....Tell her how you're feeling. If she doesn't feel that this is a true relationship, at least you'll know now, before you end up getting hurt even worse.
Wed Nov 02, 2005 4:39 pm
JXA
Joined: 02 Nov 2005
Posts: 3
quote:Originally posted by Jules:
Talk to her....ask her....Tell her how you're feeling. If she doesn't feel that this is a true relationship, at least you'll know now, before you end up getting hurt even worse.
I've try
but eveytime
it's "I love you, but I don't want people to know..."
why oh why !
Wed Nov 02, 2005 4:51 pm
Jules
Joined: 22 Feb 2005
Posts: 904
Location: Home
Then ask her straight out why she doesn't want anyone to know? Does she come from a religious family? She may be struggling with her beliefs vs her needs...if it comes down to it, tell her you are tired of living a lie and she needs to decide what she wants to do...
Wed Nov 02, 2005 4:57 pm
SWAY
Joined: 14 Apr 2005
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Location: Upstate NY
Listen to Jules, she's a wise woman!
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