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OceanWaves



Joined: 20 Jul 2007
Posts: 16
Location: Seattle
so freaking confused

Hey everyone.

I've posted here before once or twice, and I've been "lurking" for over a year now I think. Every time I think I've figured myself out, I freak and think "this is just a phase" etc. And then I'll try and date a man and it turns into a disaster. I met a guy recently who would be perfect for me in so many ways, but as soon as it gets physical, forget it. Can't do it. In my heart I think I finally understand that I am just not sexually attracted to men. I've never dated a woman, never kissed a woman, but I want to.

I'm just too scared to know where to start! My younger sister is my best friend and I really want to tell her, but I have no idea how. She's very open and understanding, but I don't want her to hate me. She talks about her relationship with her boyfriend all the time, and that's part of what has cemented for me that I'm just not interested in men in the same way, probably never have been.

I guess I'm just looking for advice or anyone who can relate. What was the first step you took? How did you tell those closest to you? How did you meet other women?

Help! Smile
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Post Sun May 11, 2008 4:10 pm 
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holly



Joined: 28 Jan 2007
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Probably start telling a friend or two is a good way to start. Maybe your friends know other lesbians and could introduce them to you. That's how it worked for me.

You say your sister is very open and understanding; probably she won't mind.

Post Sun May 11, 2008 6:49 pm 
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OceanWaves



Joined: 20 Jul 2007
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Thanks for the reply Holly. Smile I'm new to my city and don't really know anyone who could introduce me to people, but I'm hoping to go to a gay bar or two very soon. I'm pretty sure I know what I want, I just don't want to hurt anyone in the process, you know?
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