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Ellen_Degeneresisawsome



Joined: 05 Dec 2004
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Location: Oregon
i am sorry to mel and all of mels members

four years ago i joined the site when i was 17 well obviously i am not now and i aplogize to mel for everything i said about her and i understand if no one ever wants to speak to me again after this i didnt mean to hurt anyone at all i love everyone on this site i hope everyone can forgive the stupid mistake i made and if i could change back time if i could i dont want to hurt anyone espically my friends on this site because i love you all so much and mel again i am sorry for what i did i hope you can forgive me i do realise the rules that mel has that she does not accept any under age and she does keep it safe and she does a great job and as a adult i was to apolgize
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Post Thu Aug 30, 2007 9:53 pm 
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Rose Autumn Melancholy



Joined: 23 Jan 2005
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Darlin', i doubt you did anything so dramatic that you had to put this. and i'm sorry that you feel like you had to. i'm not speaking for every one, but i'm pretty sure, most of us weren't too detrimentally change by what had happened. there's no reason for you too feel like this, cause most of us wouldn't make you. so don't. love and let love. yeah, i changed it. but doesn't that sound better? sweet sentiment as it is, just calm your nerves, and remember you are loved.

hugs and kisses


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Post Fri Aug 31, 2007 12:53 am 
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Phoenix
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Ellen,

I think it took some maturity to admit your wrong doing. The rules are as they are to protect this site, and it's members. If mel knowingly allowed a minor to stay, it could cause some major problems, not to mention the fact at how unfair that would be to those who have been made to leave.

Your lie did not ruin my life, it did not cause me to lose sleep, but legally, if a minor were allowed to be here, it could shut it down, and I wonder how many lovely women would be harmed to lose this sanctuary. Moderators have to walk a very narrow line here, in that if they know someone is underage they have to report it, and ask them to leave.

I hope you feel better having this off your conscience now.

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Post Fri Aug 31, 2007 3:47 am 
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melons
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I think I need to make this a little clearer for everyone because I did come down hard on Elle and for those of you who know me it is extremely rare for me to ever do that.

What transpired here was someone lying to others (recently) that I allowed them to remain on this site whilst underage. The impression given was that I actively gave permission for an underage girl to remain...this is the key point.

I did insist on a public apology from Elle and that is my right to do so because the lie pertained to me...though the apology itself is a little unclear about why it was necessary. If you read further you will understand why.

Legally...socially...morally it would be unacceptable to knowingly allow underage girls on this site and it is against my code of ethics.

The lies potentially place me in a bad posiiton legally and at the end of the day I would be the one investigated. So it is not just closure of the site that is threatened when this occurs. I am personally at threat of legal action.

As you know I have children whom I protect..in order to protect them I must protect myself first. Furthermore it is my duty to ensure to the best of my ability and the mods/admins abilities that no underage girls join or remain on this site. This is to protect them...other members...the site..the mods and admins...and me.

I am an upstanding woman and I will maintain that. I am also extremely fair, honest and believe it or not, kind too; attempting to remain respectful of others at all times. In this instance I have to set an example that I will not tolerate childish lies that threaten to damage my reputation...the site...and my legal position. This was very irresponsible of Elle.

Even lies and speculation now, about her being underage four years ago, are extremely serious and could lead to further investigation or allegations. I will not place myself in that position.

Hopefully the reasons are now more clear because ...before assumptions are drawn ...the full facts always need to be aired or further comment should not be made.

Regards

Mel


Last edited by melons on Fri Aug 31, 2007 4:04 pm; edited 2 times in total

Post Fri Aug 31, 2007 9:24 am 
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melons
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Elle

You're apology is accepted, of course, and i have clarified above why I considered it necessary.

I have been harsh on you and perhaps you can now appreciate my reasons in doing so. I did feel it necessary for this to go public because of the seriousness of the lie and the possible repercussions of it. I know this will be upsetting for you however I hold no ill will towards you and you are not banned from the site...so you don't need to worry on that score.

Please remember I do a lot of work here on the site for everyone and I rarely use the fact I own the site to gain leverage in any conversation or action taken. I feel a little respect in asking that lies are not spread is not too much for me to ask.

hugs

Mel

Post Fri Aug 31, 2007 9:48 am 
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<WEG> Oh but Mel Dahling, you would look soooo good in cuffs Twisted Evil


wuv you

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Post Fri Aug 31, 2007 11:26 am 
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lori



Joined: 19 Aug 2007
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Im new here and dont have a clue what happened ages ago, but i dont understand how you Melons can be held responsible for any underage member using this site as we all know it happens and you are not psychic!!!
id say chill. Wont be first underage member to lie here or indeed any site.
Internet sites are full of deceitful people. Its getting wise to the signs without getting paranoid that is important.
You are doing a fantastic job here and long may that continue.
*cracks whip at naughty Elle* Wink
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Post Fri Aug 31, 2007 1:51 pm 
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melons
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Lori

For your information:

1. I am chilled
2. I am not paranoid.

I suggest you re-read the thread because you missed the point entirely!

If you still don't get it...ask me!

Mel

Post Fri Aug 31, 2007 4:00 pm 
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lori



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lol. i didnt say you were paranoid!!!! i meant in general!!! everyone should be careful on entire internet!
glad you are chilled but wasnt being cheeky to you, only sympathtic if anything, as i know web owners get hassles they dont deserve.
maybe i dont really understand Elles point as i wasnt here like i said.
and i wont be spoken to like im a kid, so.... thanks for the reprimand.
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Post Fri Aug 31, 2007 4:34 pm 
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melons
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quote:
Originally posted by lori:

maybe i dont really understand Elles point as i wasnt here like i said.



Actually it was me making the point and not elle!

It would also appear you still do not understand the point so I will spell it out.

1. Myself nor the mods/admins never knowingly allow an underager to join or remain on the site.
2. Elle was underage on the site 4 years ago unbeknownst to me the mods/admins.
3. Now (i.e. the present time) Elle is stating that she was permitted on the site whilst underage with my knowledge.
4. I have never permitted or given my permission for an underager to remain on the site when discovered (and if still underage).
5. Elle stating I gave her permission is a lie.
6. As the lie has been said very recently this can damage my reputation and have the same legal impact even though Elle is no longer underage.
7. I can be held legally responsible.

I have not reprimanded you...that's not my style.

I am however setting the record straight for those less informed.

Mel

Post Fri Aug 31, 2007 8:29 pm 
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lori



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oh ok. Still dont see how it will affect you. you did not know and that was MY
point. Wink
Sorry if i upset you but i fully understood all of the above before your explanation so not really getting this??? Confused Rolling Eyes
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Post Fri Aug 31, 2007 9:16 pm 
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Cavewoman



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for Pete's sake Lori.... PLEASE do a little research with regard to the Codes of Law .....

whether you believe it or not, its true....
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Post Fri Aug 31, 2007 9:36 pm 
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Kewl



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Mel,

I applaude each and every one of your efforts along with admin staff who keep this site maintained with reasonable affirmations. I believe in the power this site has . I have witnessed and FELT the impact of just how caring, supportive, embracing, and loving MelsWebs IS !!!

It took someone with immense integrity.. it took someone with a belief that being generous with her time, thoughts, writes, heart, soul, mind, and presence might eventually lead into something far greater than she realized or had hoped for . That woman took the network from inside herself and branched out .. and what has formed is nothing less than a spirited coven, or.. safe haven if you will . It's a gathering, .. it's a porch with a light on.. it's a lobby filled with souls ... and it's a family .. it's a home..... it's a Mother in the truest sense of the word....... it's a village...... it's a long forgotten mountain top........... and it's a camp... it's a river.. it's a valley.....
it's a backyard ............ but, the most important thing MelsWebs is ...... is a HEART wherein lifelines run through it !!!!!!!!! .. The woman who cared enough is......... you . The woman who continues to care is you .. and the woman who gave us each other.......... IS.......... YOU !!!!!!!!

.. if you don't realize the significance of impact you have had on other's in the most positive ways..... then please allow this outspoken gurl to direct your attention to such.......

just look to each relationship which has developed in Mels, whether it be friendship, lovers, or bonding of souls. If it had not been for you dear Mel .. many of us would be alone .

priscilla humbly says , thank you for the most treasured Gift you gave .. yourself .


~ Afem

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Post Fri Aug 31, 2007 9:57 pm 
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Dark prism



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Ok, this is my take on it.

Pornography and other adult sites are legally not allowed to have or invite children on them. We all need to protect children from certain adult issues. I certainly don't want any child on a pornographic website, and although there is no pornography here, there is erotica, and we do discuss adult issues including sex. The law states a child is anyone under 18. Although I think that certain girls under the age of 18 could benefit from the wisdom and caring of some of the ladies here, it is against the law, plain and simple. Mel certainly does not want to break the law by allowing underage girls here, not only for her own safety and that of her children, but also to protect and keep the site open for the rest of us.

Mel is an upstanding person as far as I can tell, and cares about us and this site, and I'm sure she cares about the children out there that may stumble onto this site without parental supervision too. I know she will fight like hell to not let anything jeopardize this place which is a safe haven for alot of us.

Mel---Thank you for all the work that you do in keeping this place going. I am sure this place saves lives, and you can be very proud of that.


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Post Fri Aug 31, 2007 9:58 pm 
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lori



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dunno why everyones jumping down my throat. All i was saying was i stand by Mel. Rolling Eyes
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