I am a pretty private person who needs lots of personal space. Whenever I visit family out of state, I always get a hotel room. Trust me when I say, there are MANY reasons for this decision. I have to make a trip again to see an elderly parent and my son is also flying there. He wants to share the one room hotel room with me. I feel like that is really going to be uncomfortable on many levels for me. I get very stressed when I have to fly, I have Meniere's disease (inner ear disorder), vertigo, IBS and an ulcer. I need some small moments of privacy (especially when I try to go to sleep and use bathroom!) and sharing with my 40 year old son will definitely make the stress level way higher. He gets up at the crack of dawn (I sleep til and our relationship has been a bit strained over the years, as he doesn't approve of my relationship. How do I handle this? I feel guilty, yet I"m annoyed, b/c he knows me, and he also has tons of money so it's not like he can't afford his own room.
Mon Feb 20, 2012 1:29 am
Tracey
Joined: 30 Dec 2005
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Location: Ayr, Scotland
just tell him nicely that he's too old to be sharing rooms with his mom! and explain with the IBS that it could be unpleasant for him! (i have IBS as well and pity anyone who has to use the bathroom afterwards)
*hugs*
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Mon Feb 20, 2012 10:14 am
MysteryGirl Moderators
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Exactly what Tracey said. He is 40 years old for petes sake. I wouldnt be sharing a room with him if I was in perfect health. No need to feel guilty Renie, just say NO. ANd believe me, I do know how stressful family can be.
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Mon Feb 20, 2012 11:36 pm
renie
Joined: 03 Jul 2007
Posts: 17
Thanks Tracey and Mystery girl. It would feel uncomfortable to share one room/bathroom with my 40 year old son or anyone besides my partner. Living with my partner for 25 years, we know eachother's needs and quirks. Besides the fact that I'd be embarrassed by IBS issues, snoring, keeping myself properly clothed constantly, there'd be no room for yoga, or a moment of privacy, which I need after living with someone for 25 years. Just a little space.........
Tue Feb 21, 2012 4:07 pm
PipSqueak
Joined: 04 Jul 2008
Posts: 987
Location: S.W. England
I agree with MG & Tracey. Just politely tell him that you are used to your space and will be more more comfortable not sharing a room. Maybe he thinks he ought to and it'll be a relief for him too. _________________ .............................................................
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