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Curious Friend
I told a friend from my elementary school days that I was a lesbian, and she was cool with that. She told me she was jsut curious how lesbians "do it". She isn't going to ask a stranger about their sex life (neither am I, come to think of it), and the bulk of lesbian porn is made mostly for men who think we are "waiting" for them. What can I tell my friend? I am very shy, and have no clue what to tell her. Could someone give me some advice, please? Thank you. _________________ Smile! You are loved!
Sun May 25, 2008 4:12 pm
MysteryGirl Moderators
Joined: 02 Jun 2007
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Hi Purp, welcome to Mels.
I think the answer is contained in your own posting, why should anyone need to 'ask' about another person's sex life, and why should you be expected to 'tell'. If she's truly a good friend, all you have to do is smile and say "some things are private and personal" and leave it at that.
HugZ, Noni _________________ Be yourself.............everybody else is taken!
Sun May 25, 2008 4:31 pm
Purp
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Thanks, Noni. She said she was cool with my gayness, but I wasn't sure how to respond to her...curiousity, I guess. _________________ Smile! You are loved!
Mon May 26, 2008 1:34 am
findyourpassion
Joined: 24 Aug 2006
Posts: 82
I think it's a natural curiosity, and I think it's cool if you're comfortable sharing things with her, but I also think you totally have the right to say it's personal. No one is required to talk about their sex life if they don't want to, gay or straight!
Wed Jun 04, 2008 5:10 am
Dark prism
Joined: 10 Dec 2006
Posts: 865
Location: California Dreamin, baby.
Honestly, I find it amazing that people have such trouble fathoming alternate ways of living when it isn't the norm. It just seems to blow their minds and so many people struggle with understanding things when, if they really thought about it, it is really so simple. I mean really, what lesbians do in bed is not that much different than what other people do. I think most people could figure it out if they opened their minds, but that doesn't seem to be very easy for most in todays society.
I equate this to the many times I have been asked what there is for me to eat on Thanksgiving. When I tell people I'm a vegetarian, they get this far-off distant look on their faces and I guess they must assume I starve on that day. It never seems to occur to them that most of the other dishes on the Thanksgiving dinner table are vegetarian.
In both circumstances..... I do just fine without the turkey..... and I always find plenty to eat.
Dp
Wed Jun 04, 2008 8:38 am
Purp
Joined: 20 May 2008
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Thanks, Passion. I agree.
Thanks, Prism. I, too, am a vegetarian, and eat plenty (read:More then enough0 on Thanksgiving without the turkey. _________________ Smile! You are loved!
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